All the Small Things…Bonding

When you are a Stay-At-Home-Mum, the small things end up becoming really important. You focus on small things, whether wonderful or frustrating. When I saw that MummyNeverSleeps was starting a linky called ‘All the Small Things’, I knew instantly what I wanted to write about.

After I had my daughter, almost six years ago, I informed Husband that we would not be having any more children. I had hated being pregnant. Those first five months of constant, all-day morning sickness had been horrendous. And the c-section at the end of the nine months was no ‘welcome to the world baby’ party. 

But Husband tried and tried, and finally convinced me that we were not as complete as I had said. I can confidently say that I am right about most things, but this time it was Husband’s turn to be right. With my second pregnancy I had six months of morning sickness as well as pelvic girdle pain, finished off with another c-section. But it was worth it, as my darling baby boy really did complete our family.

There is a four-year age difference between my children. Moozles had just turned four when Dubz was born. I had worried that in addition to the difference in gender, the age gap would make it tough for them to get along and play. But I needn’t have worried. Just about everyday, I see them playing and laughing and my heart is filled with such happiness. During long drives, they play silly games and Moozles sings and tickles Dubz. At home they run around and hide and chase. When we walk to/from school, Walker often wants to hold his sister’s hand (she walks while he sits in his buggy). 

Everyday I look at them in wonder and their bond warms my heart an infinite amount. And I am so thankful for this small thing, which is so big.

All the Small Things - MummyNeverSleeps

10 thoughts on “All the Small Things…Bonding

  1. Oof, I got all teary eyed there.

    This really resonates with me because we always intended to have another baby not too long after our first, but life and illness and stuff got in the way. If I got pregnant like right now, there’d be a 5 year age difference and I do really worry about how my first would take to be a brother and how they’d bond.

    I really needed to read this. Thank you. And thank you so much for sharing your Small Thing 🙂

    1. Awww, I’m glad you like it! It’s tough when it seems like most kids have a 2-3 year age gap between their siblings, and you feel like you’ve done something crazy. But it works for our family. And it means my eldest can watch her brother if I need to cook/tidy, and I never have to worry about her being mean or hurting him.

  2. What a lovely post. There’s a ten year age gap between my two, and I really worried and fretted about how a new addition would change the dynamics. Needn’t have worried, my ten year old adores our new addition, as do we all – I think we can learn a lot from kids and how adaptable they are. And there is the added benefit of having him able to watch over her just as your older one does. 🙂

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