pregnancy

2004. On my honeymoon in Kenya. Before kids.
It's not like I used to be skinny. I would often fluctuate with kinda slim and kinda chunky. But now, I'm actually fat. My body hasn't recovered from having my second child. My daughter is five and my son is 19 months old. I gained three stones  (42 pounds) when I was pregnant with my boy. I lost a stone after he was born, leaving me two blasted stones overweight. And with the fatigue and the demands of breastfeeding, the weight never shifted. And when Walker started sleeping through the night at 10 months, I thought it would happen. But it didn't.

Out a few months ago
My pre-pregnancy clothes are still too tight. I don't have any dressy things for my current size so I did some online shopping last week, trying to get a new outfit for some Christmas outings. But nothing looks nice. 

I know my weight doesn't define who I am. But it does affect the way I feel. I am not looking to be a size zero. I know that's not how I'm made. But I just want to be able to dress without agonising over my lumps and bumps. 

I got into Pilates equipment(Reformer, Cadillac) before my second pregnancy and it really toned me up. There is a great studio in Clapham but we moved last year and there isn't a proper Pilates studio nearby.  
How did you tackle your pregnancy weight? Or are you still dealing with it? It is so tough finding the time and energy to exercise. If I ever have time while my son is napping, I just want to rest on the sofa. How can I put down the cake and pick up the weights? Any advice would be gratefully received.