How to Handle Being The Favourite Parent

Moozles made it clear, from a very young age, who her favourite parent was. I’ll give you a hint: it wasn’t Daddy. At the weekends, she would tell him to go away, to go to work. She only wanted Mummy. When we decided to have another child, I thought Husband would get his chance at being the favourite parent. It never occurred to me that I would be the favoured parent to both children.

Favourite Parent

Children are fickle creatures. One day they only want mummy to change their nappy, and the next day they are daddy’s shadow. But as I am in the throes of the former, I thought I would offer some tips on what not to do.

1. Don’t say things like ‘Don’t worry honey, I’m sure he/she loves you’. It just sounds like you’re rubbing it in, says Husband.

2. Don’t offer reasons as to why your child doesn’t favour your partner. Husband doesn’t find this helpful.

3. Don’t offer your partner ‘helpful’ tips on how to make your child like them. According to Husband, that is very condescending.

4. Don’t say things like ‘I hope nothing ever happens to me, imagine how sad he/she would be if you were the only parent’. Husband says that is quite cruel.

5. Don’t make sad noises and give your partner pitying looks when your child screams at their very presence. Apparently, it does not ease the pain, says Husband.

6. Don’t laugh when your child hits and kicks if your partner tries to read him/her a story. Husband says that it is not funny.

I hope I have managed to shed some clarity on the subject. And if you’re not the favourite parent – better luck next time!

 

 

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10 thoughts on “How to Handle Being The Favourite Parent

  1. Ha that did make me smile. I think kids go through phases, mine all seemed to prefer their dad when they were younger but now they swap as and when it suits them or when they want something.

  2. Ha ha! We are lucky, I am Lottie’s fave and Hubby is Harry’s fave…one each! No squabbling!!! Lol 😉 Jess xx

  3. I do ALL of these to my hub too. I’m the favourite parent too and they pull no punches do they kids about telling EVERYONE?!,?

  4. Ha ha, great post, Elfa! I don’t get a look in with my boys – it’s daddy, daddy all the way. I’m happy if they notice me as I wipe their bottoms. Fab doing Blogfest with ya! xx

  5. I’m obviously far too nice, as I never say anything to the OH. Although he always wins when a tractor ride on the farm is involved. N can’t leave the house fast enough. It’s just for everything else, it’s all about me

  6. This post is right up my street! My four-year-old seems to think I’m her bitch. She loves me soooo much that I kind of find it possessive rather than altogether lovely. She does all that “not you!” business at my poor, amazing-dad, husband. (Maybe calling him that would be in your list of things that don’t help!) Fortunately for family balance our two-year-old adores her daddy and sobs when he leaves the room or nips out to get something from the car. When I nip out to the car I glance anxiously back through the window to check she’s ok – but yeah, she’s fine, she’s busy gazing into daddy’s eyes. I think she just loves him most because their faces match.

  7. This is a good post. Thanks for sharing. There’s a book by Steve Biddulph about raising boys (and one about raising girls which I haven’t yet red). I have a two-year old son who is a bit of a mummy’s boy. The theory goes; the little boys need their mummy the most from 0 to 4, then it’s time for daddy from 4 to about 10 and after that they need other role models. I think fathers become particularly important to girls when they become teenagers.

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