The Mistakes We Make…

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This week’s topic from MumTurnedMom is ‘the mistakes we make’. This really spoke to me. I have made my share of mistakes. I think that I am my worst critic. Especially as a mother. Mothers are continually bombarded with issues of parenting perfection. The perfectly cleaned house. The perfectly made meal. Those perfect homemade cupcakes and the perfectly made craft project. All whilst wearing the perfect outfit with the perfectly styled hair.

Sit down, ladies. I have something to tell you. You see, there is no perfection. There is trying, and doing your best. And mistakes. A whole lot of mistakes. But it doesn’t really matter. As long as you try your best at parenting. As long as you love and protect your children. It is okay to make mistakes. Your children don’t care if the house is clean. They don’t care if you’ve warmed up fish fingers and peas or if you’ve steamed sea bass on a bed of spinach. They don’t care about the dust on your skirting boards. They don’t even care if you wear a messy ponytail every day.

Your child probably does care about the crafts and the cupcakes, though. But they can actually be a bit rubbish, and he/she will still think they are amazing. That’s the beauty of children. They see the best in things. They don’t see the mistakes. They notice the time you have put in. They notice the attention you have given them. So put down the mop, cast aside the hair straighteners. Grab a glitter glue stick and make your child’s day.

15 thoughts on “The Mistakes We Make…

  1. “The perfectly cleaned house. The perfectly made meal. Those perfect homemade cupcakes and the perfectly made craft project. All whilst wearing the perfect outfit with the perfectly styled hair.”
    Show me one real life mother who is like this 24/7 and I will show you where the circuit board is. Fembot lol
    Great post. X

  2. Great post! Totally agree with you on this one – the words perfection and motherhood do not belong on the same page let alone in the same sentence. Perfection (in my humble opinion) is a complete fallacy #ThePrompt

  3. This one really made me smile!! I loved this line: “That’s the beauty of children. They see the best in things. They don’t see the mistakes.” Yes! Being around children is the best for feeling happy about yourself and they always say the nicest things when you feel a bit poo. Love this post xx

  4. I think my children would care if I served up steamed sea bass on a bed of spinach!! 😉 Nice idea though, we should all just quit this never-ending striving for perfection and just be happy to do our best because you’re right – all the kids really want is a bit of PVA glue and a glitter gun along with an hour or two of your undivided attention 🙂 X #theprompt

  5. As a stay at home dad, this was an interesting read. You see I feel under pressure to do all the same things…even to wearing the perfect outfit. If you’re the only dad in the playground you want to make sure you’re presentable.

    Oddly, ‘though, I don’t think people have the same expectations of you when you’re in my position. On the one hand this works in my favour, my house can be messy and my kids in mismatched clothes. On the other I feel it’s quite sad. Why shouldn’t people expect the same of me as a mum? #theprompt

    1. That is such a good point. Women do not expect the same from a SAHD. It’s quite sexist really. It’s like we’re relieved if the dad hasn’t forgotten their child somewhere. Other mums probably wouldn’t notice if a dad was disheveled, but I’m sure they would notice if a mum was.

  6. Such a gorgeously positive post 🙂 You are totally right.
    My little miss smiles at me and wants to play even before I have brushed my teeth in the morning… can’t all be bad.
    I am trying my very best to enjoy her age before she gets too cool to love mummy as much as minnie mouse xx

  7. Absolutely love this! There really is no such thing as perfection, certainly not when it comes to being a parent… Even if there was a chance, our wonderfully messy, destructive children would soon put paid to that, and it is all so much more fun because they do 🙂 Thank you so much for sharing with #ThePrompt x

  8. We love crafts. Anything gluing and sticking goes down well here. I gave up on parenting perfection two children ago. Clean, fed and not too much irrational crying (from me) is the target now. X

  9. Love this post, you are so right, the quest for perfection is futile and it doesn’t and can’t exist. We must all just try our best, not feel guilty and realise that as humans, inevitably we will make mistakes. I try and always apologise to my kids when I mess up. Thanks for this, featured it over on John’s post on the blog today for #whosthedaddy x

  10. Great post, Elfa. I love your direct style – poetic and emotive but punchy too. I just got told (by a friend, I should add) that I have helmet hair…so i’ve obviously been taking your advice before I even read it. xx

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