You know how everyone is talking about being hangry (hungry + angry)? Well, there is one thing worse than being hangry, and that’s being pangry. My son is three and he’s always pangry. Oh, what is ‘pangry’ you ask? It is when you become angry because you’re desperate for a poo.


Dubz has been pangry since we toilet trained him eight weeks ago. It started off okay. He used the toilet and the potty. But after a couple of days, he decided that he did not want to poo at all. He would hold it in for two or three days until he could no longer hold it in anymore, and then he would poo in his underpants. And when I tried letting him go commando around the house, he would then poo on the floor/carpet. It was gross. As you can imagine. But cleaning up the poo wasn’t the worst part.

It was the anger. The grumpiness. The mood swings. The hitting and kicking and shrieking. But I understand. How can you be happy and carefree when you’re full of poo? How can you be polite and kind when you’re backed up. But even though I can be understanding, I am still exasperated. It is not like Dubz is constipated. There isn’t a medical reason behind the lack of poos. The poos are there, ready, waiting. It is my son’s determined will that keeps him from pooing. He is stubborn. I have known this from the day Dubz was born. He always wants to do things when he wants, the way he wants.

When we first started potty training, I attributed his surly attitude to other things. Dubz was tired, hungry or maybe he was getting a cold. And obviously, he is three, so there is a lot of surliness associated with that. But it was more than that. It was an overwhelming anger, over nothing, that would alleviate as soon as he did a poo. Then I made the connection. Dubz was pangry.

Maybe I’m not the only one dealing with a pangry toddler. If you think your child has panger issues, have a look at the checklist.

  1. Does your child frequently go more than one day without doing a poo?
  2. Does your child get angry for no reason, even when they’re not hungry/hangry?
  3. Does your child not want to eat even though it’s mealtime and they’re showing signs of hunger?
  4. Does your child start hitting and crying, even if you suggest fun activities like watching televison or going to the park?

If you answered yes to one or more, then your child has a case of the pangries. There is nothing to help. Nothing to alleviate their grouchiness. You just need to ride it out until that kid stops being afraid to poo. And watch out for when being pangry turns to phangry (being angry due to hunger and needing a poo – eek). Good luck!


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